At the end of my first period
of apprenticeship with Miguel Ruiz, he was encouraging me to
begin guiding my own apprentices. I was more than a little unsure
of my capabilities at the time. As we rode along in the car
together, I was carrying on about "Should I do a group
or individuals? How many apprentices do you think I should have?
What if I find out I don't know what to do?" and on and
After listening to me for a few moments, he
turned, smiled, and said in his simple way: "Try it, and
if you don't like it, change it."
The earth moved beneath my Perfectionist's
feet. My "know how it is going to turn out before you start"
self was gasping for air. My ducks would not stay in a row.
And in a flash of Miguel's Loving Wisdom, I was free.
It did not matter! I was free to act, to risk,
to try it-- and to be me. And you know, it has turned out pretty
Thank you, don Miguel. As I write this, my
heart is filled with gratitude for your patience, love, and
wonderful wisdom. And I am so grateful for the many opportunities
I now have to share my own love with others.
So, the next time you are agonizing over a
difficult decision, large or small, I encourage you to try this
simple wisdom for yourself: "Try it, and if you don't like
it, change it." I think you will be happy that you did.