The day after writing my previous Weekly Word
about The Secret and Dreaming, I was waiting for a friend at Kaiser
Hospital. I watched a couple across from me, as the man grew more
agitated with each person that was called into the office. Finally
he spoke up and said, “Hey, we were here before them!”
A nurse kindly told him that there were many doctors there, and
his wife’s doctor would see her in a moment. He garrumphed,
and said something angry under his breath.
A few moments later, the nurse called the woman
into the office, and as her husband approached with her the nurse
apologized and told him there was no place for him to wait inside
right then, and asked him to sit back down in the waiting room.
He became even more agitated, and spun away with the word “bitch!”
resonating from his angry expletive.
He began pacing up and down the hall, angrily
denouncing the nurse, the doctors, and the hospital to one and
all. On one of his trips into view, the nurse opened the door
and invited him to come in and be with his wife. He passed through
that door as though she was standing there ready to drive a knife
into his back as he passed. His body showed the tightness and
tension of his war with the world.
From where I was dreaming, the nurse was pleasant
and thoughtful, and concerned about the man’s desire to
be with his wife in the doctor’s office. From where he was
dreaming, the whole system seemed to be working against him and
making him very angry.
Many who teach about “The Secret”
would have us believe that all this man would have to do is change
his thinking and his whole life would change. And, you know, I
agree completely. However, I wonder how he would have reacted
if I had suggested that to him while he was pacing the hall ranting
about The World.
For me, this is a great example of how dreaming
creates your world. This man and I were living in totally different
universes. And I know that he is so fully immersed in his unique
universe and its battles, that it would be very difficult for
him to simply change his thinking to move to a more peaceful and
Yes, it is very simple, but it is not always
easy. We have all lived in our special universes for so long that
we get very attached to them. Those universes attract into them
all the evidence we need to support the beliefs and agreements
that maintain them.
So here is my secret about changing your dream:
You can change your life by changing how you dream it. It is that
simple, and it often not easy. First, you need awareness that
you are dreaming (see my book chapter “The Perfect Dream”
in the Joydancer Notebook here). Then you need tools for exposing
and changing the ways you think. Changing your thinking will change
your emotions. Changing your emotions will change your reactions,
as well as change the very cells of your body. Changing your thinking,
emotions, reactions, and cells will change your universe.
This is the work of Spiritual Warriors. Not
all are called to it. If you are one of the ones that are (and
since you have read this far I assume you are), I hope you will
join me for an event, Journey of the Spirit, TeleClass, or Joydancer
online program soon. It is why Joydancer exists.
There is no hurry, but we haven’t a moment
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